|This is ME!|
Josephine was the name Mom told me she had ready for the little girl she had expected. Robyn was the name I got given because I was actually a little boy. Was it strange that Mom should choose a name that would do for either sex in the end?
By the time I five and attending kindergarten I had known the heartbreak of seeing my best friend Julie whose dolls I had shared leaving me to play jump rope and double dutch with the other girls on the playground. By the time I was nine I was playing wistfully in my Mom's room when she was busy, wearing her perfume and makeup, trying her clothes and shoes, hoping against hope that I would somehow grow up to be her or someone like her, a Mom with kids of my own.
I have a memory of being tired on very long journeys and falling asleep on the bench seat of our car with my head in my Mom's lap and feeling her hand stroke my hair. I felt so secure, my Mom's daughter.
Mom had become so ill that she no longer recognised me by the time I had begun to transition. I chose to keep the name she had given me, adding Jane as well to remember a much loved Grandma. I could just as easily have become Josephine. No doubt I would be Josie by now. Mum died a few years later and just in time, I was able to say goodbye to her at her funeral as the daughter I had always really been.