Retrobassgirl
Friday, November 4, 2022
Mischief Night and Turnip Lanterns
Saturday, October 22, 2022
Autumn and Apfelkuchen
Autumn
and Apfelkuchen
It is now 5783 and the start of a brand-new year. We traditionally associate this sweet and beautiful time with apples and honey, or at least I do. It is a nice juxtaposition; the sharp acidity of aromatic apples, tempered with the intense, floral sweetness of honey. Those two flavours symbolise the accomplishments of another year, or even a life. The sharp flavour of apples representing the challenges and difficulties we faced to get here. The honey is the sweetness of accomplishment and overcoming them. Together, they give a reassurance of our capability to deal with the fresh challenges the new year will inevitably bring.
When I was little, our garden at home contained two beautiful apple trees. I learned later that the variety was ‘James Grieve’. My parents had wisely grown them because they were trees that gave a special and versatile fruit. Picked early, around the time of Rosh Hashanah, the apples were green, sharp and acidic; more like a baking apple. They were superb for New Year dipping in honey. Picked later and wrapped carefully in paper, they could be put away in boxes until Chanukah. They would be periodically taken out to be examined and reviewed; Yom Kippur like, for flaws which would make the others go bad. Found lacking, they would not be sealed again in the box but consumed or baked if possible. By Chanukah, the remaining good apples would be rosy red; a little smaller in size; wizened, but beautifully sweet and ready to eat. They were like the memories of good times; the essence of long hot summer days distilled and captured to enjoy again in the cold and brief days of Kislev and Tevet. Summer seemed golden, viewed and tasted in that way. Looking back to my childhood from an adult perspective is much the same. When you are little; long hot summer days seem to last forever. It never seems quite the same as a grown up but in memory, we can relive those halcyon times.
Yet it is all too easy looking back, to remember the past as better than it actually was. We tend to put a gloss on things and overlook the difficulties and problems. We need checks and balances to ensure that we aren’t misled into a happy daze of imagining things to be better than they really were. It is good then that 10 days after New Year, we come to Yom Kippur. The Day of Atonement is a reality check at the end of the Days of Awe; one which involves an external appraisal of our year, and requires a candid, honest view from ourselves. We see the flaws which can mar the sweetness. They will always be there but we have the choice to jettison them and make a fresh start. We need to, in order to ensure a sweet future for another year.
At Chanukah, the apples from our garden were simply delicious; ready to eat. But at Rosh Hashanah, like ourselves, they still needed work. Peeled, prepared and carefully sliced; my mother crafted them with love into the most delicious apfelkuchen to be served at New Year and during Sukkot. Fortunately, the taste isn’t just a memory, I still have the ability to relive the taste and the experience. My mother, along with unfinished manuscripts, copious notes about historic war crimes and her innumerable book collection, also bequeathed her food stained, handwritten recipe book. The time worn pages bear colours and minute traces of foods and preserves, created while the book was open on the Tisch. The same table was home to feasts, family get togethers, candle lighting, blessings and Havdalah. So much in our home revolved around it. It is a far cry from the television centric homes of the present day. My mother’s battered blue volume of recipes and meal ideas underpinned, prepared and provided for all our festive occasions. It did so as much as any Machzor or Siddur. Her handwriting, bold, simple and decisive in style; still brings her back to me. As I read her words, I can hear her voice. As I follow their rapid flow, I can sense the urgency and energy in her writing. It was a zest she put into everything she did, from the speedy rattle of her Adler typewriter, the ripping of flawed pages from the machine’s carriage, to the satisfied click of finished manuscripts as they were stored in their binder.
I include one of her recipes at the end of the article. This one is for an apfelkuchen with a sponge base. As always, my mother was never as precise as her recipes suggested. She baked by intuition and with love, not with science. There are many different apple cakes and I realise that this is one of many. The margarine we used was Rakusens which is dairy-free. My mother (and people generally) vary in how they arrange the apples. There are two alternatives in this recipe. The one pictured below or another where the apples are cut into quarters and slit 5-6 times to make a ‘fan’. These are then pressed into the dough at intervals to make an attractive pattern. We tended to eat this as a ‘coffee cake’ but it can make a good dessert too. I am unsure where the recipe came from; my mother handed it down to me as it came to her; from family.
Apfelkuchen
Ingredients
½-¾ lb of sharp baking apples (about 3) - check for blemishes.
2 heaped tablespoons of sugar
1 level teaspoon of mixed spice
¼ lb of kosher vegetable margarine (use butter if intended to serve on its own)
¼ lb of sugar
2 large eggs
Icing sugar for dusting (optional)
Method
Rub the margarine or butter into the flour well, with the tips of your fingers and add the ¼ lb of sugar. Beat the eggs and add a little at a time until all is used. It should make a dropping consistency (it took me ages to learn exactly what that was from my mother). Peel the apples, core and cut into thin slices. Grease a baking tin or dish and pour the mixture into it. Carefully lay the apple slices on top of the mix; overlapping slightly as you go. Combine the sugar and the spices and sprinkle or sift over the apples. You can add more or less to taste. Bake in the centre of a moderate oven for 35 to 40 minutes until the sponge is risen and the apples/sugar have begun to caramelise slightly. Allow to cool on a baking rack before turning out of the tin. Dust with a little icing sugar to decorate if desired. Serve with a good ground coffee for a delicious Zweites Frühstück.
Wednesday, March 31, 2021
Trans Visibility in the Lockdown Era
I’ve written so many blogs for Transgender Day of Visibility
- TDOV. They were penned when obstacles to visibility were personal fears. This
year obstacles are Covid-related. I’m
writing in an era of sweat pants or PJs all day; not bothering with make-up; no
social gatherings; a time of home and office involuntarily coalescing. Is there
visibility in a time of lockdown? Being
out and proud with gender identity seems impossible when the official directive
is ‘Stay at Home’. Suddenly there’s no
choice, we are all ‘invisible,’ locked down before screens at home whether we
like it or not.
I have polled others in the Trans community about their
experiences. Many are gloomy and
depressed. Those struggling to come out
have suddenly found lifelines cut. The
support groups and gatherings offering safety in their target gender, have
gone. Those stuck at home in abusive
relationships face pressure; conforming to someone else’s idea of who they ‘should
be’. Those needing hormones and surgery face indefinite waits while health staff
focus on the pandemic. Hope disappears and,
one by one, the lights that gave hope, go out. I have comforted friends
expressing suicidal thoughts and wondered about the seeming cruelty of it all.
Into all of this came Channel 4’s ‘It’s a Sin’ with its
exploration of AIDS in 1980’s Britain.
For me, it came like a stone pitched into a pool, each episode setting
off ripples of painful memories. I was a
gender-queer 20 something in 80’s Newcastle-upon-Tyne; out on the scene but
very vulnerable. Exploring my gender
presentation and sexuality meant intimate involvement with others, yet my
relationship was deeply conventional. My then partner knew nothing about the
secret life I led. As the poorly
understood means of transmission got clearer, I suspected I might be HIV+ but
didn’t dare get tested. Many Trans and Non-Binary people refused because
testing meant revealing secret gender identities. Being outed as Gay looked bad enough; being
outed as a Trans meant losing my job, my home; maybe living on the street. As the scenes of It’s a Sin rolled on screen,
I felt a deep shame about it all. My previous actions seemed so selfish and at
times I didn’t want to see any more.
I completed my transition many years ago. My current birth certificate records my birth
as female. I’m someone’s wife. I had the longed for big white wedding. I became
a Mum with two kids and later two step children. I had the awful shock of understanding
I was heterosexual. These days I work and
volunteer for George House Trust and yes, before I had Gender Confirmation
Surgery (GCS) I got tested and found out my status. Now I consider it my
responsibility. Others tell me I pass well (something I still find hard to
believe). Ironically, ‘passing’ hands you the option of invisibility: In the Trans community, we call it ‘Going
stealth’.
In the end I chose NOT to go stealth. How could I? Winning the Trans genetic
lottery and having a winning photographic smile doesn’t entitle you to turn
your back on sisters and brothers. By the same token knowing your HIV status
doesn’t take away the responsibility of managing relationships. I had the
option to hide my past and to fit into normative cisgender society. It was
tempting. In an earlier, less affluent time, like many transsexual women, I
worked the sex industry to pay transition related bills. I could feel shame and
hide but who would that help? Visibility is not just about physical presence,
it is about being counted when it comes to trans-activism and upholding the
rights of all trans and non-binary people. You can do that whether you are
Trans, Gender-queer or even a Cis-gender Ally. It is about joining the debate,
whether you are stuck ‘invisible’ at home or not. It is also about getting
tested and encouraging Trans friends to do the same; to test despite their
fears. Visibility is not just for you, it’s for all of us.
Thursday, March 18, 2021
Typescripts, Peace and Emotional Memories
Monday, July 30, 2018
Dear Youngest Daughter
Transition, like teenage can be a very selfish time in our lives. Hormones are raging, we are growing and developing. We are often catapulted into a world of love and sex unprepared for the way it will affect us and how it will change our lives.
Those of you who have also been single parents will know how difficult it is too to start dating someone. All the time you are haunted by a fear of what a new relationship might do to strong bonds and family relationships. You find new love with joy but also that fear in the back of your mind.
Only later, when perhaps it is too late, do we take stock and realise that maybe we could have managed things differently.
I'm posting this letter to my youngest here in the hope she might somehow see it. I have no address or phone number, so here's hoping dear daughter, that one day, you will read this and know I'm sorry.
Dear Youngest Daughter,
How are you. I hope that you and your love are well. I’m writing a short letter in an attempt to build bridges and to say sorry for letting you down. I really mean that.
Four years ago, you too wrote a blog for your friend who you felt you had hurt. It was a brave attempt at an apology and one of the most sincere things I've ever read. You wrote from the heart. That is what I'm doing now too.
In your own blog, you wrote prophetically:
"And by the way to eny won out ther who dose have a best friend/love one/family memberDon't take them fore granted.appreciate every thing they do and make shore they no it. Be mindful full of how they feel and never let your insecurities get the best of you it a think can brake friendship if your not careful."
I hope that one day you will read this dear daughter and know that I never intentionally set out to make you feel lonely and shut out. We all need family. We all need friends. You will always be friend and my family both in my thoughts and heart,
Thursday, July 5, 2018
Processions 2018 - Why Trans Sisters Need to March Alongside Their Sisters
My Partner and I at Processions 2018 - Credit: Tina Williams |
I am my grandmother’s granddaughter. She fought for my right to vote and I wanted to honour that. On June the 10th this year my partner and I (pictured above) travelled to London to participate in Processions with thousands of other women. We were paying homage to the women of suffrage but also making our voices heard about current issues. I was nervous: Both myself and my partner Tina are Trans. We marched with friends from Sparkle; the National Transgender Charity. I’m a transexual woman, my partner is bi-gender. we were aware that the debate about trans women in women only spaces is highly charged. Might some deny our right to be considered women and to participate in such an event?
Saturday, June 16, 2018
Why Rainbow Coffee Cups Might Not Be So LGBT Supportive As You Think
Source: Whitbread Plc 2018 |
Err not exactly. As it happens, COSTA recently rolled out its stores in some of the most oppressive regimes in the world. In some of these countries you will receive the death penalty for being Gay...goodness knows what would happen if you were a Trans barista like me.
Source: Whitbread Plc 2018 |
Source: www.independent.co.uk |
Photo credit: Martin Williams |
Support Pink businesses that really care about your community rather than using the rainbow as a cynical marketing ploy.
Huggs, Jane xx